I wrote this on the first federally acknowledged Truth and Reconciliation Day, September 30th 2021, for my therapist colleagues in a clinic I was working at. Boozhoo nwiijkiwenydig giinwaa mnik bezndaageyeg. (Greetings friends, those of you who are listening).
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Breathing and relating: exploring a therapist’s heuristic experience
In 2019 I wrote my Master’s dissertation on my experience of being aware of my breathing while in sessions with clients. Below is the abstract from my research. You can find the published article here, or my unpublished dissertation here.
Sex and Depression: The Monster Under The Bed
I first met JoEllen Notte at a sexuality conference called Playground, in Toronto in 2015. She was talking about the impact antidepressants have on sexual function and relationships and referred to this as “the monster under the bed”, the conversation no one was having.
All The Sex We Aren’t Having
So, according to a bunch of recent stats, we (people born after 1981, sometimes referred to as ‘millennials’) are having less sex than our parents. Particularly if we are living in Japan, where various studies say that 45% of women aged 16-24 were not interested in sexual contact, a third of under 30s had neverContinue reading “All The Sex We Aren’t Having”
Four Tips for Self-Loving to Guarantee Great Sex!
Now I’ve got your attention with the most Cosmo-esque title I can think of, this column is about love. When (if!) you decide to open up your own sexy bubble and include someone else in it (maybe you’re tindering/grindering/texting someone, pashing a stranger on a Saturday night, or bringing up a new sex idea inContinue reading “Four Tips for Self-Loving to Guarantee Great Sex!”
Fucking Shopping: A Guide to Buying Sex Toys
This article is for anyone else who is interested in buying their first sex toy, or expanding their collection. Material is everything.
What Are You Ashamed Of?
“OOOOOH! SHAAAAAMEEEE!” echoes around kiwi schools, kids putting down kids as they give the wrong (or right) answer in the classroom, drop the ball on the rugby pitch or receive an award at assembly. What kid hasn’t felt that feeling? Hot face, sweat prickling palms, armpits, lower back. Stomach caving in, words stuck, body frozen.
Go F**k Yourself
This column was originally published in AUT University’s Debate magazine (issue 3, 27 March 2017) and is the first of a bi-weekly sex column written by me. “Sex positivity is an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.” (Cheers, Wikipedia).
Dancing With The Beach. Reflections on an intimate relationship with nature.
Age: 21. In my final year at Otago University, New Zealand I participated in a dance field trip to the wild and remote Catlins, located on the south east corner of the South Island. If you travelled in a straight line, across the choppy Pacific Ocean, you’d bang straight into Antarctica. We spent a weekContinue reading “Dancing With The Beach. Reflections on an intimate relationship with nature.”
Is there adventure in staying put?
Two Tuesdays ago, after work. With temperatures once again sinking below minus 10 I wrap my scarf around my head three times, add an extra pair of socks and carry my bike down 3 flights of stairs (my apartment’s bike stands are cluttered full of half bikes, skeletons left from opportunistic robbers).