Rape, politics and policy

Last week, the Ontario Legislature Select Committee on Sexual Violence and Harassment issued their final report. It is a comprehensive, well-written document, an absorbing hours read (if you find policy absorbing) and makes some solid recommendations. You can read it – with all 67 recommendations – here.

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What is Yoga for Sex?

Once a month I offer “Yoga for Sex” workshops at the University of Toronto Sexual Education Centre. I refer to ‘yoga’ in the most holistic of terms: the workshops are about presence, connection, bodies and breath. I often get asked what the workshops contain. Here’s a participant’s review.

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Your brain and your genitals don’t match all / some / most of the time. And you’re normal!

This entire post is one big shout out to Emily Nagoski’s fascinating, belief-exploding book Come As You Are. I’d love to issue this book as compulsory reading for anyone with genitals.


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Ease is a soft belly

Place your hands on your belly. Relax your belly. Just let it go. Let it be round in your hands. (Despite the culture’s fascination with concave bellies, bellies are supposed to be at least slightly rounded). 

Barbara Carrellas, Urban Tantra.

I read this last week, sitting on my yoga mat, preparing to meditate. And this, THIS …obvious truth (!) landed with me on my mat, and has stayed with me ever since. Relaxing my belly is really hard!

I’m reading Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas, an epic how-to guide on applying ancient tantric principles to modern life. There is so much I’m experimenting with and taking away from this book, but the above quote has stayed with me the most.

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